Under the big top – Anna Spargo-Ryan

Under the big top

Under the big top

On Friday I took my kids to the circus. We’d managed to get to the last day of the holidays without actually doing anything fun (standing in the hallway and shouting “JUST PACK YOUR CLOTHES!” notwithstanding) and I was bobbing around in Mother Guilt Lake. I had those kinds of holidays, when I was a kid. The non-fun ones. I’d go back to school and my friends would talk about how they went to Bali or got a puppy or lived with a clown and I’d say, “I went to tennis camp for three weeks and my brother took a shit in my school bag.”

I don’t like to support circuses with animal acts any more than the next person who’s not an idiot, but Lily is obsessed with horses. Every day of her life she invests her little spirit in edging closer to her dream of having a horse (mostly by saying, “Mum, if we ever live on a farm, which I know is unlikely, can I have a horse?” over and over. The answer, of course, is yes.). And when your reality is restricted by the boundaries of what you can logically process, like mine is, and you’re in concrete Melbourne, your options for getting up close and personal with horses are limited.

So we went to the circus. It was one of those suburban circuses where there are actually just three people doing everything, but with fake names, and at intermission you see them serving up hot dogs from the second-hand portable. There were blatant “for the dads” performances from a shiny contortionist, and some fire porn from a bearded individual with no gag reflex. Quite odd.¬†For six bucks each, the kids got a “showbag”, which contained amongst other things some Star Wars stickers and a gleaming pin-wheel (broken).

And these Groucho masks, because circuses are fun! (Lily declared, “Georgia, now we’re geeks!”)

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We sat through act after tiresome act, the three of us, in a haze of buttered popcorn powder and the sticky webs of fairy floss, waiting. Noticing the girl in the hoop (what was her name this time?) but only as a precursor to the reason we were there at all: these horses. Lasso spinning. Trampolining. Old clowns. Just waiting for the horses, her reason for being, for breathing, for wishing.

With five minutes until the show ended, the lights went down and Lily’s body tensed. In the ring the three palominos performed various tricks under the crack of the whip, but that wasn’t why she was there. She was transfixed by the majesty of the beast, not even seeing the tricks, just the way its muscles tensed and released, and the soft sweeping of its mane, and the heavy fall of its feet. When I looked at her, it was with the same adoring fascination. And I realised she was crying.

So then I was crying. Which was the kind of circus this was. Then Lily told the car park attendant–who was also clown #3 and the juggling guy and the guy selling the showbags and the one whose mother was shouting at him to clean up the horse poo–that it was “such a great circus!” and he looked like he wanted to die, but at least I had managed to give them a holiday story.

  • Nick Perkins

    October 8, 2013 at 4:09 pm Reply

    Horses are such majestic creatures. My dad is (well at least was, not sure these days) a racehorse trainer and I used to love going to the stables to help him when I was a kid.

    If you ever get the chance you should look into a farm stay for a weekend. Can be difficult with kids and anxiety and what not but some farm stays have horse riding included and the kids get to brush and groom them as well.

  • Caroline

    October 8, 2013 at 10:23 pm Reply

    Such a beautiful story…:)

  • hogsandwich

    October 21, 2013 at 7:06 pm Reply

    You have given birth to a seven year old me.

    Re-iterating what someone else said – farm-stay trips are great and there’s a stack in VIC. We stayed on an ostrich farm there once. nothing wakes you up in the morning like an ostrich face in the kitchen window, no sirree.

    and speaking as a horse obsessionist from way back, odds are she’s going to be completely happy just sitting on a fence and watching a horse or two going about their business. horse-kids are ultra low maintenance.

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